A Valentine’s Tribute

February 14, 2018

This man. I love him!

I have for a while now.

He isn’t perfect. And don’t I know it;) But he’s a good man. He’s quick to apologize and even quicker to forgive. He’s energetic and fun, but also disciplined and serious-minded. We disagree sometimes. And sometimes we do it poorly. But since I’ve been thinking about self-sacrificial love and Jared just preached on I Corinthians 13 (listen here), I’ve been rehearsing all the ways that Jared has loved his family self-sacrificially through the years.

It started when we got married. He dropped out of seminary for 6 months, moved to South Carolina and worked at a debt-collection agency (no hating–we were soo ignorant!) while I finished up my master’s.

As the years passed and we began adding children, this self-sacrificial love showed up in his care for me. I remember his helping me into the ER and gently steering me away from the entrance when he realized I was going to throw up. That got everyone’s attention; I was immediately hospitalized with a mysterious infection for four days and nights. Asher was just a few weeks old.

Jared left me at the hospital that night to take care of a newborn by himself. His mom helped him during the days, but he wouldn’t hear of leaving Asher overnight. So he took that crying, sleepless baby home and loved on him.

He mastered the baby bath early on

As well as the swaddle

He also got real good at multi-tasking

I’ve found him in the family room in the middle of the night holding two buckets for two vomiting boys saying, “I got this. You get some sleep.” He hadn’t even woken me.

I remember his barreling through red lights at midnight enroute to the hospital the night Haven was born. If you know him, you know this is a sacrifice! I was 9 cm upon arrival.

It wasn’t long before we met her!

As the years went on, I had more health trouble. I can remember Jared canceling a class and coming home because I was bedridden.

I remember another time when I had to retreat to bed, Jared laid there beside me–telling me stories, reading to me, making me laugh.

The kids get to experience this self-sacrificial love as well. He enters in to their imaginary worlds and interests when most of us would roll our eyes in boredom. I have a video of him and Haven clapping out Miss Mary Mack. Lucky for Jared, I had trouble uploading it!

But here he’s applying press on nails for Haven =)

He wrestles the wild things. He invents games and spins rhymes and generally brings so much life and fun and good humor to the family.

In the winter, he’d attach the sled to the tractor and drive them through the snow.

He takes the kids to work when I’m in a pinch. And they love it, because they adore him.

He consistently walks in the door with a cheerful greeting. I cannot overstate how much I love this. Whatever was occupying his thoughts while he was away, he does his best to shelve them and immediately enter in to the home environment.

He is the embodiment of patience when it comes to figuring out electronics and fixing them. “Daddy will fix it”–we all confidently say.

He consistently and energetically follows through with the bedtime routine each night.

He’s a thoughtful gift-giver. I get new phones, new blog sites, new coffeemaker, (it’s the best!!!) a nook, an ipad, Alexa. He takes time to figure out what will make my life easier and better. Once he even booked an appointment with a naturopath doc on my birthday.

Last Monday morning while we were enjoying our weekly breakfast at Daily Dose, an elderly couple slowly walked to the booth directly opposite ours. Without realizing it, we stopped talking and started watching them. The man–walking with a cane–helped his wife slowly lower into the seat before helping her remove her coat. She clearly had some physical malady that prevented her from this simplest of actions and he was accustomed to helping her. He did this without any impatience or resentment. Jared and I–forgetting our manners–were admiring this little love display when the woman turned to us, removed her hat to reveal a bobbed hair cut with pink dyed ends (she was adorable), winked at us and said, “I don’t recommend getting old.” But she chuckled as she said it. We were a little embarrassed for staring so after a brief interaction with them, we tried to pick up our conversation where we had left it, but really both of us just wanted to say, “I’ll take care of you like that when you’re old!”

I pray I get that privilege. I love you, Jared. Happy Valentine’s Day!

You Might Also Like

  • Christy February 14, 2018 at 11:42 am

    Just beautiful!! Jared is a blessed man, too, Charisse!

    That was an awesome sermon, btw. I so appreciate his teaching.

    • Charisse Compton February 14, 2018 at 2:02 pm

      Thanks, Christy! Happy Valentine’s to you and Steve!

  • David Doran Jr February 14, 2018 at 3:31 pm

    Made me miss my buddy! what a friend–we miss you both and are so thankful for the kindness God has shown in giving you each other!

    • Charisse Compton February 15, 2018 at 3:04 pm

      Thank you! And happy Valentine’s to you and Abi!

  • Lisa February 14, 2018 at 4:04 pm

    That was a great post and tribute! Thanks for sharing!! Happy Valentine’s Day!

    • Charisse Compton February 15, 2018 at 3:04 pm

      Thanks for reading! And Happy Valentine’s to you too!

  • Hannah Miller February 15, 2018 at 1:57 pm

    This just made me tear up. What a lovely tribute! Thankful to know your dear in-laws, and I look forward to one day meeting you! 😊

    • Charisse Compton February 15, 2018 at 3:05 pm

      I look forward to that too, Hannah! Thanks for your comment!

  • Shirt-tail Uncle Gerry February 15, 2018 at 2:38 pm

    Wow – that was beautiful! I (not we, but I – Carole is still a young thing) am in the range of the couple you told about. I have such pleasant memories of the few times we spent with you two. Would like to know more of your life/church/ministry. God Bless!!!

    • Charisse Compton February 15, 2018 at 3:07 pm

      Aww, thanks for reading, Gerry! So nice to hear from you. I’ll pass your comments along to Jared as well. Happy Valentine’s!